RE: [ST] selfish?

["Alex Hendry" <alex_hendry@xxxxxxxxxxx>]

Hi

This is actually one of the biggest problems I have.  I never even thought 
that I was being selfish, but recently, it is exactly what my wife accuse me 
of being.  She made me take out a large insurance policy as well.

The thing is, now every time I go out on my bike I DO feel selfish, and its 
making me think is it worth it?  Perhaps I should forget it.  The argument 
about would I stop her sky diving is similar to the one I put to her.  I 
told her that if she was a keen horse rider would I stop her?  Of course 
not, yet I have seen some statistics putting that as a more dangerous 
activity.  Not really resolved, I continue to ride, but the fun has probably 
gone.

I don't think its fair she used this argument, but she has made it now, and 
I cannot take it away.  She has backed off a bit since she now realises how 
much it means to me, but I still feel uncomfortable.

Just wish she'd come with me sometime, but with three children, she 
emphatically states that it would be unfair to take the risk.

I took her to Paris for a treat, and I honestly thought she wouldn'd want to 
go on the same plane.

Anyway, my problems are nothing compared to those poor bereaved families out 
there, and my heart goes out to them.

Ride Safe Everyone

alex









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Jonathon

well said


Rob White

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Subject: [ST] selfish?


Erik Miner wrote:
<Eric's death has gotten me thinking. I guess at times like this it's
not uncommon. He and I weren't that different , wife and a young child.
So I've been wondering am I being really selfish for riding??>

Erik,
I have thought about that same question as well, even before I had my
daughter (she's 5 mo's old now).  But here is the way I see it.  If your
wife was a sky diver and was passionate about it, would you ever ask her
not to do it?  Who would be the selfish one there? (I'm not insinuating
where your guilt is originating from :^)
If you really enjoy motorcycling (the way I think you do), then you
shouldn't feel guilty even if something bad ever did happen to you.
Your family should know that you're doing one of the things that really
makes you feel alive, what gives you character, what drives your
ambition in life. I don't think it's selfish at all to do things that
are inherently riskier than others.  You just have to make time to do
the other important  things that you love to do as well, like watching
your kid grow.  It's a sense of balance really.  The important thing is
that you don't ever reach that point in your life when you say "Gee, I
wish I would have spent more time with my kid".... or... "I wish I would
have rode out to (fill in the blank for a trip of a lifetime). "

Moderation is the key, my friend.  Just be responsible and get yourself
a good life insurance policy.  ;^)

Ride on,
Jonathan West


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